Nothing hurts more than a regular loss, but losing multiple people over a short period of time can really do a number on you. I have personally lost four people in the past four years (my cousin, uncle, father, and grandmother). It can be very difficult navigating through life when you’ve had many losses, but here’s what I found helped me
Find little ways to remember your loved one
It’s helpful if you find little ways to remember your loved ones that you’ve lost because even though they are no longer here, having little ways to remember them helps them feel like they’re still here. This can include doing little things your loved ones used to do or even setting aside a day just to remember them, like their birthday or holidays.
Another good way to remember your loved one is having a piece of jewelry or even a small memento of something that reminds you of them. I have a locket with some of my dad’s ashes and I have some of my grandmother’s jewelry.
There is no timeline for grief
Remember there is no timeline for grief. It has been almost ten months since my father passed away and it still hurts to this day. My grandmother passed away a few days ago and it doesn’t hurt as much because she was much older. Despite me feeling this way, there is really no timeline for grief. You can grieve for months or years, or you might not grieve at all.
Find healthy ways to cope
There are a lot of ways to cope with grief, some of them unhealthy, but some of them can be healthy, such as cleaning, exercising, doing little things to remember your loved ones, etc.
How do you handle multiple losses?